A Valentines Reminder

I originally wrote the following for InstaGodsGirl, a website for young Christian women.  Since Valentines Day is almost here, I thought it’d be a great reminder for all of us – including myself.

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I want a few things for you – that you realize the end of a relationship isn’t the end of the world, your worth isn’t wrapped up in that relationship, and all of our heartbreaks are a chance to glorify Him. That’s all He wants, isn’t it? All of us. Every broken part of us. 

I know it hurts, and it might hurt for some time. I’ve been there, but two of the most profound heartbreaks of my life pushed me further in my faith. Each one brought me closer to the One who orchestrates our lives, and if we’re to believe that God is in control; He knows what He’s doing with the pain, too.
I’ve been left with one essential truth. He has to be my everything. It doesn’t mean that we won’t feel the weight of disappointment, but it does mean that we have a Father who knows what’s best. “God surely have known it, for He knows the secrets of every heart.” (Psalm 44:21)

It will be hard. I know it’s hard. You’ll have days when the pleadings with God seem unheard, but He listens. He’s there. “I’ve waited patiently for the Lord, He inclined to me and heard my cry.” (Psalm 40:1)

Cling to Him when the ache is too much for you. Keep crying out to Him when the pain burrows too deep. Let Him know that you’re hurting, although He’s aware of your every emotion. Your words won’t hurt His feelings. He can handle your anger.

It’s not easy navigating life after someone has decided to end things. I need you to realize that His love is greater than your pain. He has a lesson in your pain. He always does. Keep standing in His presence. There’s nothing the enemy wants more than for you to abandon your reliance on Christ. It’s what he does. You know that. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good.” (Genesis 50:20)

Please understand that any and all heartbreak should be used for His glory. One day, and that day will come, you’ll talk to a friend in pain after a breakup and it will be an opportunity to share your faith. You’ll share how you spent more time with your real love, your first love. “This is real love – not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.” (1 John 4:10)

Tell her how you prayed and studied the Bible, instead of wallowing in what could’ve been. Encourage her every time she feels that she’ll never get over that guy. Use your past heartbreak for His glory.  He promises healing. It might not be how or when you want it to happen, but allow Him to be the balm to soothe your wounded heart.  “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.” (Psalm 147: 3)

Prayer: Lord, I’ve been hurt. Remind me to lean on You, to chase You, and not someone or something that takes the focus off You. Amen.


Seen. Called. Healed.

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Have you ever come across a passage in your Bible study that you’ve read numerous times, but it stands out in a different way all of a sudden?  I recently read the story of the woman with the disabling spirit with new eyes – especially the verse:

When Jesus saw her, he called her over and said to her, “Woman, you are freed from your disability.”  (Luke 13:12)

This woman had suffered a debilitating illness for eighteen years.  Eighteen long years.  I immediately thought of all the things I’d been carrying around, all the things that were preventing me from living for Him.  

I’m not speaking of just physical ailments, but mental ones, too.  There are some things that we hold on to that create illness.  Our physical state can reflect our mental state, and vice versa.  It can become a cycle.  Something happens, maybe a job loss, a death, or agony over the future.  The stress and worry can create more problems for us.  This takes the focus off the Lord. 

But, this woman.  Oh, this woman.  She was seen.  Someone noticed her pain.  And, not just anyone.  Jesus Christ, the Healer and Deliverer, saw her when those around her for eighteen years didn’t.  

Imagine being wounded after a car wreck.  You’re stuck on the side of the road.  Multiple cars are passing.  You’re hoping someone will notice and stop to help.  Finally, that one person comes to your rescue and calls emergency responders.  They soothe you until more help arrives. 

I think it may have been like this for the disabled woman.  She’d been bent over in pain for years and all it took was the One to notice and help.  He saw her.  He called her.  He spoke life into her.  He healed her.

 And he laid his hands on her, and immediately she was straight, and she glorified God. (Luke 13:13)

He sees you, too.  You aren’t forgotten in the midst of your pain.  You aren’t alone.  You are never alone.  Accept the freedom that comes with knowing that you have a Father that sees everything that you’re going through.  Find solace in the truth of His love for you.  Give Him all the glory, because He sees you.  He calls you.  He can and will heal you.

How did you glorify God after a time when you were ill or your spirits were low? 



Broken Heart 

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One of my favorite quotes is by Ernest Hemingway, “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” 
For me, it means that none of us are exempt from heartache, but we can find something deeper beyond that pain. We’re not defined by our heartbreaks because we serve a God who offers solace when it’s too hard to bear. 

The same way you healed from that first disappointment in love is how you’ll get through it now and in the future. It doesn’t have to be romantic love, but the heartbreak of a broken friendship. 

Whatever has broken your heart is no match for the peace of God. Leave it to Him to mend your heart.

See John 14:27:

I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.

How has your faith helped heal your past heartbreaks?



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I just want to love better, do better, be better. So, after a difficult few days, I know this gnawing is only Him. Have you ever felt like you were slipping, that you’re not quite on your game like you were last month or last year? 
I’m going deeper. The only way I can settle myself is to fall at the Throne. Let’s leave all our worries with Him. We can’t allow our cares to create more distance. 

The sacred is what I need. Peace is what I crave. It’s only found with my Father, though. Here I am again – tired and more than a little heavy from life. Here I go again – chasing a freedom that’s onlyfound with Him. I’m just better after time spent in that space of calm.  He makes it all better. He makes me better.


In My Heart


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I have hidden your word in my heart…
Psalms 119:11

At times, it’s easy to attend church, listen to praise and worship music, or pray. It can even take little effort to read the Word. The challenging part of each of these acts of faith is to be deliberate, to be intentional. How can we go further? Challenge yourself to go deeper by memorizing scripture. It helps to guard your heart with His truth during the tough times.

What are a few scriptures that you’ve memorized?