I originally wrote the following for InstaGodsGirl, a website for young Christian women. Since Valentines Day is almost here, I thought it’d be a great reminder for all of us – including myself.
I want a few things for you – that you realize the end of a relationship isn’t the end of the world, your worth isn’t wrapped up in that relationship, and all of our heartbreaks are a chance to glorify Him. That’s all He wants, isn’t it? All of us. Every broken part of us.
I know it hurts, and it might hurt for some time. I’ve been there, but two of the most profound heartbreaks of my life pushed me further in my faith. Each one brought me closer to the One who orchestrates our lives, and if we’re to believe that God is in control; He knows what He’s doing with the pain, too.
I’ve been left with one essential truth. He has to be my everything. It doesn’t mean that we won’t feel the weight of disappointment, but it does mean that we have a Father who knows what’s best. “God surely have known it, for He knows the secrets of every heart.” (Psalm 44:21)
It will be hard. I know it’s hard. You’ll have days when the pleadings with God seem unheard, but He listens. He’s there. “I’ve waited patiently for the Lord, He inclined to me and heard my cry.” (Psalm 40:1)
Cling to Him when the ache is too much for you. Keep crying out to Him when the pain burrows too deep. Let Him know that you’re hurting, although He’s aware of your every emotion. Your words won’t hurt His feelings. He can handle your anger.
It’s not easy navigating life after someone has decided to end things. I need you to realize that His love is greater than your pain. He has a lesson in your pain. He always does. Keep standing in His presence. There’s nothing the enemy wants more than for you to abandon your reliance on Christ. It’s what he does. You know that. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good.” (Genesis 50:20)
Please understand that any and all heartbreak should be used for His glory. One day, and that day will come, you’ll talk to a friend in pain after a breakup and it will be an opportunity to share your faith. You’ll share how you spent more time with your real love, your first love. “This is real love – not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.” (1 John 4:10)
Tell her how you prayed and studied the Bible, instead of wallowing in what could’ve been. Encourage her every time she feels that she’ll never get over that guy. Use your past heartbreak for His glory. He promises healing. It might not be how or when you want it to happen, but allow Him to be the balm to soothe your wounded heart. “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.” (Psalm 147: 3)
Prayer: Lord, I’ve been hurt. Remind me to lean on You, to chase You, and not someone or something that takes the focus off You. Amen.